The number of girls that I have met at SMU who use a form of contraception has continued to astound me. Out of the ten girls in my hall, seven of them take a birth control pill each morning before their classes. Five of these Freshmen girls have already been sexually active at SMU, whereas the other two take the pill because they were sexually active in high school. As for the remaining three, they have chosen the route of abstinence. The aspect of this scenario that makes me cringe is the fact that all seven of these ten girls have not told their parents about their decision to use birth control.
Although I believe it’s smart to take advantage of contraceptive methods if you choose to be sexually active, I’m having trouble pinpointing a time in one’s life when it is appropriate to participate in intercourse. It’s almost as if an overwhelming number of Freshmen girls have distorted college into their sweet escape from parental supervision and have made regrettable decisions as a result.
I can’t even begin to imagine what their mothers would think of their daughters if they knew that they were sexually active. I mean, come on! We are at college to get an education - not to have intercourse on the weekends and weekdays we go out.
I respect your opinion, however, many girls are on birth control for health reasons and I think it is unfair to assume that all girls on "the pill" are sexually active. For example, I have several friends who are birth control because they get very bad cramps. One of my closest friends had to be rushed in an ambulance because she fainted when she had her period. Since then, she has been on birth control, and her cramps have gone away. Many girls also use it to clear up acne. Also, I respect the girls for being responsible enough for put themselves on the pill, with or without their parents permission. Almost everyone in our grade is 18 years old or older; we are adults. It is our job to be responsible for our own bodies. Everyone matures at different stages in life, and being sexual active is a personal decision that does not and should not affect anyone else.
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ReplyDeleteI agree with Molly. I am a male and many of my female friends are virgins and take birth control because of the reasons that Molly listed. It is a personal choice, and I don't feel that students are coming to college to "go crazy" and sleep with every guy they meet. I know many sexually active girls that are brilliant students. Like many different actions, people partake not because they are in outright rebellion but because it is fun. Just like if you know you will be drinking you don't drive, girls that know they are going to partake in intercourse take the pill. If they aren't on the pill and do partake, they are risking pregnancy. Which is much more disastrous to a college education, as is a DUI.
I agree with Molly. My roommate, 10 of my best friends and I are all on birth control. We are all virgins and we all are taking it for reasons other than being sexually active. Some are taking it to control their hormones or to regulate their menstrual cycle or to clear up their acne. There are various other reasons why girls choose to take the pill and most are not because they are going to be sexually active. But, I do agree that if they choose to be sexually active it is smart for them to take the pill. There is never a right time to start having sex. It’s the persons decision about whether they are ready, not a written rule. If they want to they can, you can’t make that decision for them. They have to be ready and wanting, you cant sit their and tell them no because when it comes down to it, if they really want to they are going to do it whether you want them to or not.
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ReplyDeleteAs a male, taking birth control is pretty much the most responsible thing a girl can do besides not having sex. Just imagine the amount of unexpected pregnancies, and college drop out rates if sexually active girls didn't take birth control (condoms aren't always 100%). Taking birth control is a respectable thing as it shows that a girl cares about her future, and sets high values upon herself.
I can understand that we are suppose to be going to college to learn, not have sex. However, meeting new people and the temptations of having sex is part of the learning experience of college